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Topic Started: 20 Feb 2011, 06:07 PM (13,098 Views)
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BubbleBoy
20 Feb 2011, 09:43 PM
I believe narcissism is on the increase in our society.
Agreed, and so is obesity.
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4 Mar 2012, 11:56 PM
Agreed, and so is obesity.
It appears from your ABC TV appearance that you're quite fond of pies yourself.
Housing costs to Income broadly unchanged since 1994 - re-ratified here
The People of Australia have the highest median wealth in the World
2002-2012 10 year house price growth the SLOWEST since 1952-1962
"There are two kinds of people in this world: ones that fiddle around wondering whether a thing's right or wrong and guys like us." (Hugo to Gagin in Ride the Pink Horse)
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We're all narcissists now … or are we?

April 2, 2012

There are few more common insults thrown at public figures these days than ''narcissist''. It is considered, in the mouths of many, a more sophisticated way of calling someone a bastard.

Politicians such as Kevin Rudd and Malcolm Turnbull have been repeatedly called narcissists. Russell Crowe, Lara Bingle and Muammar Gaddafi have been labelled with the term.

A term with deep roots in psychoanalytic literature, it has become the go-to pop diagnosis by columnists, bloggers and television psychologists, and appears to have become so bloated as to have been rendered almost meaningless.

The concept of narcissism as a broad cultural condition goes back several decades. The historian Christopher Lasch published The Culture of Narcissism in 1979, three years after author Tom Wolfe declared it the ''me decade''.

The rise of identity politics, reality television and self-help literature has since effectively elevated self-absorption from a passing trend to the norm. To now accuse someone of being a narcissist, in the age of Facebook, is a bit like accusing them of breathing. But are we really all narcissists now, or do we misunderstand its true meaning?

Havelock Ellis, the late-19th-century British sexologist, has been credited with coining the word after the myth of Narcissus, the Greek youth fatally enamoured of his own reflection.

Narcissists, Sigmund Freud later wrote, were nearly untreatable. Unspeakably lonely and shackled by grandiose fantasies, they were incapable of forming relationships - even with a psychoanalyst.

My patients who receive a diagnosis of this disorder remain among the most challenging to help because they often believe their problem is that others never recognise how special they are. In childhood, they had been deprived of essential emotional sustenance; as adults, their arrogance, sense of entitlement and exhibitionistic tendencies spring from the deepest humiliation.

There is a a Narcissistic Personality Inventory test that includes 16 pairs of choices. (For example: ''Everybody likes to hear my stories'' or ''Sometimes I tell good stories''.) There is a subset of true narcissists who will even boast that they aced the narcissistic test.

In the clinical diagnostic manual, the criteria for narcissistic personality disorder include a ''pervasive pattern of grandiosity … need for admiration and lack of empathy''.

So, are we all narcissists now? For centuries, the rich and the powerful documented their existence and their status through painted portraits. A marker of wealth and a bid for immortality, portraits offer intriguing hints about the daily life of their subjects - professions, ambitions, attitudes, and, most importantly, social standing.

Today, our self-portraits are democratic and digital; they are crafted from pixels rather than paints. Our modern likenesses on social networking sites feature background music, carefully manipulated photographs, stream-of-consciousness musings, and lists of our hobbies and friends. We create them to find friendship, love and that ambiguous modern thing called connection. It is the timeless human desire for attention and admiration that emerge as the dominant themes in social networking.

But status-seeking has an ever-present partner: anxiety. Unlike a portrait, which hangs tamely on the wall signalling one's status, maintaining status on Facebook requires constant vigilance, regular updates. Every profile is a carefully planned media campaign. Like all narcissists, any of our pomp and bombast is merely a plea to be loved and accepted.

Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/opinion/political-news/were-all-narcissists-now-8230-or-are-we-20120401-1w6be.html#ixzz1qv3HiOkN
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The workplace narcissist

According to Dr Roy Lubit, author of Coping with Toxic Managers, Subordinates and Other Difficult People, the narcissist is a person with a grandiose sense of self-confidence who pursues power at any cost. It’s the person who uses others to get what he (or she) wants, and feels no remorse for the trail of betrayal left behind. Often caused by childhood trauma that resulted in diminished self-esteem, the narcissist makes up for it by being ruthless as an adult.

It can be your boss, a colleague, or an employee. But since many narcissists use their charisma to fulfil their obsession for career success, they’re usually found in the upper echelons of the corporate hierarchy.

Professor Keith Campbell, from the University of Georgia, is the author of The Narcissism Epidemic. He told me the main difference between narcissism in bosses compared with narcissism in colleagues is the issue of power.

“In both cases, I would suggest maintaining the best boundaries you can,” he says. “Do not be overly trusting, keep records of interactions, temper your feedback so that the narcissist does not get overly reactive – and find better co-workers at the soonest opportunity. However, this advice is especially relevant with the narcissistic boss.”

Temper. Your. Feedback. Three important words, and they’re important because giving a narcissist feedback can sometimes make the problem worse. Realising they’ve been caught out, they end up becoming more sinister – only this time they’re careful to stay undercover.

But they rarely stay undercover for long. In a study of over 100 CEOs conducted a few years ago, researchers at Pennsylvania State University found that narcissistic bosses were more likely to engage in risky strategies. Why? Because of their need for visibility. After all, the more daring their vision and strategy, the higher their chances for attention. They desperately want to be noticed – not necessarily adored, but noticed.

Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/small-business/blogs/work-in-progress/the-workplace-narcissist-20120426-1xofx.html#ixzz1tIFWwDva
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